Being Vulnerable.

10.6.15

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In life, everyone's just trying to get by without any major disasters, heartache or misery. Truth be told a lot of this is out of our control and sometimes we can't help but let ourselves get hurt. I have been extremely lucky in life to have been surrounded by a very happy family and people who love me, right up until I moved away. This constant support in such close proximity means that I grew up with my heart on my sleeve. When I moved, I met so many people who were the complete opposite of me and I've always tended to be the 'soft' or 'naive' one in the friendship group.  

In a past relationship I was unfortunately cheated on, and I chose to stay with that person as I cared about them a-lot. Even though what happened hurt me deeply I had to give him a second chance and not listen to those people who told me I should dump him and get rid. I just don't work like that - I can't turn off my feelings. Fast forward 6 months and I'm getting dumped over the phone and feeling like an utter idiot. Cue lots of 'What did you expect?' and 'I told you so.' from friends and family. But, to this day I don't regret staying with him. It's made me a stronger person and taught me things about myself I wouldn't have otherwise known. 

Being vulnerable with your emotions ultimately means you may get hurt more than your average joe but that's nothing to be ashamed of. I cry at pretty much every film I watch and enjoy nothing more than a soppy love story, I put myself out there and sometimes I do get hurt because of it. But I'd rather be like this than lock my emotions away. 

I don't know why I decided to write this post. A lot of girls get abuse for being a teensy bit emotional and I honestly don't know why this is seen as a negative. I recently saw (my ultimate girl crush) Taylor Swift getting slammed in the media for being over-emotional and it actually sickens me. As if a man would ever get that critique! It takes courage to be vulnerable and there's nothing wrong with channeling your thoughts into something productive. Feelings are normal and I feel sorry for people who hide them away. Life is too short. If you love someone - tell them. If you believe in someone, don't let anyone tell you not to. Do what makes you happy and don't be afraid to get hurt. In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take.

Aisling. xo

2 comments:

  1. It's totally OK to be vulnerable. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all! You're definitely the stronger one for admitting and being comfortable with your emotions!
    Rebecca | The Two Twenty Somethings
    Xx

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  2. Aww Aisling, I've been in the exact same position and I came out stronger because of it too so I'm glad you can see the positives and learn from a not very nice situation. I also cry at almost anything slightly emotional on the tv!!!

    Really lovely, honest post!

    Emma xx // alittlefreckle

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